…And then you reach a point where ‘What people will say’ doesn’t bother you, infact, the word ‘people’ vanishes!
No, I am not going to pronounce ‘imperfect’ so slowly, that it gives the sense that ‘i’m perfect’ 😉 Because the fight is all about ‘Who’s is more perfect?’ Let’s drop this issue of projecting our perfectness before others, and acknowledging the whole – the dark and the light.
I have flaws. I have weak areas. I don’t know many things. I make mistakes on a regular basis. I have mood swings. I fear. I am not positive and happy all the time. In all, I am not perfect. And I am comfortable with it.
Let’s begin to accept our imperfect self otherwise, how can we improve?
And also begin to learn to encourage and allow others to appreciate their imperfect self, otherwise, how will they open and get comfortable in their expressions?
There are so many things which can trigger your irritation level. When I checked the things which kinda creates irritation within me I found there’s one thing which makes me go mad 😀 and that’s – STALKING! 😉
I hate the habit of stalking other people’s lives. It seems that those who follow closely other people’s lives through social media (and many other ways) don’t create something interesting in their own lives!
What irritates you?
Well, ‘I’ can be very destructive. I realized this while coming across people who behaved completely opposite of my hidden expectations from them. It made me very upset. It made me think ‘Why me?’ This I is so destructive, that it always wants people to behave as per our convenience. And when something surprisingly opposite happens, it enforces us to feel heartbroken.
Very recently, one such incident took with me.In seconds of time, the hurricane of ‘expectations broken’ type of highly judgmental thoughts filled my mind. I kept noticing the waves of thoughts rising within me. In the meanwhile, I went to take bath. I ate my breakfast then and I listened to music too. After doing these three activities, everything evaporated. The fog of stupid thoughts was gone in the quiet light of ‘pause’
I understood the magnificence and power of a pause.
Taking a pause brings the clarity that – we are not our thoughts! And Life is much more than accumulating the baggage of others!
I was talking on phone to my younger cousin brother today. We discussed so many things from cricket to social media activities..from cultivating good habits to setting goals.
We also remembered our childhood, our days of pure innocence!
And then suddenly, we both switched to quiet mode. We were silent, trying to collect..control our emotions.
We said, hum kitne badey ho gaye naa.. (we grew up fast!)
Life kitni change ho jaati hai.. Jaldi jaldi (Life changes with the speed of light.)
And I could not forget the last lines he said, before keeping the phone. He said, whenever I come to hometown, whenever I cross the platform no. 1 of the railway, I remember you.. I remember the last time we were standing together… during your shaadi ki vidaayi !
Listening to his words, I realized that you don’t have any idea how people miss (remember) you!
I realized that we should take out time to talk to people in person.
We should take out time to appreciate their presence in our lives.
We need to drop off grudges and create an environment of love & healthy communication with people around us.
We should try to make others comfortable and happy in your presence.
Things simplify and issues are resolved when we take out time to communicate (and that too directly, one to one)!
That moment when people (some one) remember you, recognize you, identify you (not because of your external beauty) because of the impact/inner shift you have created in them through your conversation /inner qualities/attitude.
One such moment recently happened with me..and all I could do was to humbly bow down to the existence!