Subtle Distinctions

​Note : By Nithya Shanti

Subtle Distinctions

I’ve noticed that making slight changes in the way we use common phrases can create a world of a difference in our perception and experience. Here are a few examples that come to mind…
1) This morning my friend Swatantra sent me a message “Thanks and make a great day”.  Instead of saying “have”, she said “make”. Can you sense how one is passive and hopeful while the other is active and intentional? I appreciated her lovely insight into this.
2) I found that sometimes more accurate than saying “I love you” is saying “I love us”. In a relationship, it is often the special interplay / exchange / field of possibilities that awakens between the two seemingly separate individuals that is most nourishing and enthralling. “I love us” means I love what both of us represent and bring to this relationship. I still say I love you, and sometimes I also like to say I love us. I love who I am in your presence and who you are and who we are together.  

3) Instead of appreciating others saying “What I have seen in you is…”, which is based on what we have observed in the past, we can say, “What I see / sense in you is…”, which means looking past their superficial persona into underlying gifts, qualities and potentials. The very act of seeing and saying this activates untapped possibilities. It magnifies appreciation to a whole new level. What we see in others we evoke in others. 

4) Sometimes people tell me that I look like Farhan Akhtar – a Bollywood star. I playfully correct them that he looks like me 😉. This is mostly in jest, but it is also a subtle and important distinction. To tell someone they look like a famous person is to put that distant person on a pedestal. To tell someone that a famous person looks like them is to acknowledge the person actually in front of you. 
5) When people ask me about my followers or even refer to themselves as my followers, I gently say “you mean my friends”. Followers follow. It’s a pretty one way relationship. Saying “Friends” sets up a more equal and dynamic relationship where each ones skills, abilities and calling gets acknowledged without automatically assuming one is better / wiser than others. 
I could go on. For now this seems adequate. The main point I suppose I am making here is that we can become increasingly sensitive to the implications of what we say, how we say it, and the kind of experience and frequency it generates. 
You are of-course welcome to share examples of subtle distinctions you can think of in the comments below.

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Eye opening thought

​Notes : Message received on watsapp

Simply outstanding thought!!! 

Do read it  !!
1. Name the 5 wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last 5 winners of the  Miss  Universe.
3. Name the last 10 people who won the Nobel Prize for Physics. 
How did you do?

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The point is, none of us remembers the headlines of yesterday !!
Even though these people must be the best in their fields !!
Applause dies !!
Awards are tarnished and 

achievements

are forgotten …..!!
Here’s another quiz:
Let’s see how this goes: 
1. Name 5 Teachers who added your journey through school.
2. Name 5 friends who helped you through  difficult times.
3. Name 5 people who taught you something worthwhile.
4. Name 5 people who make you feel special.
5. Name 5 People you enjoy spending time with.

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Easier…..right?
The people who make a difference in your life are NOT the ones with prestigeous awards and loads of money !!
Life is full of ordinary people who have made the world a better place for you !!
Cherish them !!
Hold Them Tight !!
Perhaps sometimes it’s ‘Special’ to be ‘Ordinary’ !!!

Cleaning up energies

Notes : Nithya Shanti

If things are feeling heavy and stuck then try something different for a change:

Instead of trying to clean up your life, your finances, your relationships, your home and your whole world…

Clean up your energetics, your frequency, your attention, your intention, your attitude, your gratitude, your focus, your devotion, your calling, your primary overarching priority.

Then notice how life, finances, relationships, home and world all start to beautifully realign themselves to this new harmonic.

Our outer arrangements mirror our inner clarity and vice-versa. Start somewhere. Start anywhere. You already know how. But thinking won’t get you there. Starting will get you everywhere.

Now. 
Just. 
Start.

For a happy, focused and meaningful life

Notes : By Nithya Shanti

​To live a happy, focused and meaningful life we have to learn to say “No” a lot, and also identify our “Yes”. 

We need to learn to say “No” in graceful and authentic ways when other people’s invitations, expectations and need for support is not in alignment with our own highest values and priorities. It is okay. No one needs to take care of everyone. They are also wise and capable in their own ways. They will figure it out. We can do our best to be there for others, and also have a healthy sense of where we no longer want to spend our time, energy and resources. 
This will only happen if we are connected to our “Yes!”. Which means a degree of clarity about what expands us, energizes us, is interesting, engaging and fulfilling to us. This usually requires diverse life experiences and a capacity for reflection. We need to consider what we love to do (passions), what we are good at and want to be great at (skills), what enhances the happiness and wellbeing of others (contribution), and what of-course also pays the bills (livelihood). Taken together these four aspects are called “Ikigai” by the Japanese. It means our reason for being. 
“It’s easy to say no when there is a deeper yes burning inside”, said Steven Covey. Honoring our yes requires saying a lot of no’s (a lot!). Else we become automatons trying to satisfy the arbitrary wishes of everyone around us hoping they will love, accept and appreciate us – only to get disappointed again and again.

A Short Guide to a Happy Life: Anna Quindlen on Work, Joy, and How to Live Rather Than Exist

Sharing with you something which touched my heart! 

Quindlen begins:

I’ve never earned a doctorate, or even a master’s degree. I’m not an ethicist, or a philosopher, or an expert in any particular field… I can’t talk about the economy, or the universe, or academe, as academicians like to call where they work when they’re feeling kind of grand. I’m a novelist. My work is human nature. Real life is really all I know.

Life & Work

Don’t ever confuse the two, your life and your work. That’s what I have to say. The second is only a part of the first. Don’t ever forget what a friend once wrote to Senator Paul Tsongas when the senator had decided not to run for reelection because he’d been diagnosed with cancer: “No man ever said on his deathbed I wish I had spent more time at the office.”

Don’t ever forget the words on a postcard that my father sent me last year: “If you win the rat race, you’re still a rat.”

There are thousands of people out there with the same degree you have; when you get a job, there will be thousands of people doing what you want to do for a living. But you are the only person alive who has sole custody of your life. Your particular life. Your entire life. Not just your life at a desk, or your life on the bus, or in the car, or at the computer. Not just the life of your mind, but the life of your heart. Not just your bank account, but your soul.

On Life, People and Love :

Get a life in which you notice the smell of salt water pushing itself on a breeze over the dunes, a life in which you stop and watch how a red-tailed hawk circles over a pond and a stand of pines. Get a life in which you pay attention to the baby as she scowls with concentration when she tries to pick up a Cheerio with her thumb and first finger.

Turn off your cell phone. Turn off your regular phone, for that matter. Keep still. Be present.

Get a life in which you are not alone. Find people you love, and who love you. And remember that love is not leisure, it is work.

It’s ironic that we forget so often how wonderful life really is. We have more time than ever before to remember it. The men and women of generations past had to work long, long hours to support lots and lots of children in tiny, tiny houses. The women worked in factories and sweatshops and then at home, too, with two bosses, the one who paid them, and the one they were married to, who didn’t. . . . Our jobs take too much out of us and don’t pay enough.

She continues:

Life is made up of moments, small pieces of glittering mica in a long stretch of gray cement. It would be wonderful if they came to us unsummoned, but particularly in lives as busy as the ones most of us lead now, that won’t happen. We have to teach ourselves how to make room for them, to love them, and to live, really live.

This is not a dress rehearsal, and that today is the only guarantee you get.

Source : Story Pick

Dating tip from India’s Best Motivational Speaker

Here’s a dating tip from India’s best Motivational speaker – Akash Gautam

Identifying the right person to be in a relationship with / marrying is like buying a shoe.

Just because the other person pretends to be CARING (i.e. the Shoe is ONLY comfortable) may not make you feel great about the deal after some time.

Most give in to the Comfort waala point & make the purchase but soon they want a refund because now they realize the Oooops factor frown emoticon.

Do not start dating every person who cares for you or comes near you. YOUR own MIND is weak & this is why you want other people to come & complete YOU.

YOU complete yourself by doing awesome stuff with your own life.

Make your own-self stellar. The best antidote for your Loneliness is MASSIVE awesome action.The best of the shoes will then want to sport your feet & moreover then you can select too for reasons beyond ‘only’ Comfort.

Slightly mean Advice given to a young girl who in these days checking on men to get married to / date. Felt like SHARING with you too.