Eye opening thought

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Simply outstanding thought!!! 

Do read it  !!
1. Name the 5 wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last 5 winners of the  Miss  Universe.
3. Name the last 10 people who won the Nobel Prize for Physics. 
How did you do?

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The point is, none of us remembers the headlines of yesterday !!
Even though these people must be the best in their fields !!
Applause dies !!
Awards are tarnished and 

achievements

are forgotten …..!!
Here’s another quiz:
Let’s see how this goes: 
1. Name 5 Teachers who added your journey through school.
2. Name 5 friends who helped you through  difficult times.
3. Name 5 people who taught you something worthwhile.
4. Name 5 people who make you feel special.
5. Name 5 People you enjoy spending time with.

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Easier…..right?
The people who make a difference in your life are NOT the ones with prestigeous awards and loads of money !!
Life is full of ordinary people who have made the world a better place for you !!
Cherish them !!
Hold Them Tight !!
Perhaps sometimes it’s ‘Special’ to be ‘Ordinary’ !!!

Aww..esome moment

That moment when people (some one) remember you, recognize you, identify you (not because of your external beauty) because of the impact/inner shift you have created in them through your conversation /inner qualities/attitude.

One such moment recently happened with me..and all I could do was to humbly bow down to the existence!

Your take on love! 

I was watching a short video in which a man states that he loves eating fish.

And the other person claims, that the man doesn’t loves fish, he loves himself. Since, the fish tastes good to him, he goes all the way to take out the 🐠 from water!

And this is not love towards fish, it’s love towards self. Gratifying self! 

This made me think about what love is then?!

I feel that love is about giving. And we can only give, when our cup is fully filled! 

I would like to know your take on love?

May be one day I could tell her! 

Two days before :

I danced in joy as I came to know that the beautiful little cat I clicked few months back was selected as a piece of art to be framed in a Photography exhibition in my city. 

I looked for the cat in the campus to thank her for the compassionate pose. 

Today :

 My heart wept as I saw that cat again, struggling to walk with three legs. My piece of art was before me, however, I could not jump with joy. 

I wanted to stop her. 

I wanted to run and kiss her legs. 

I wanted to hold her into my arms and give her tight hug. 

I wanted to ask her, how it happened to you. Who did it! 

However, I could not!

My legs were frozen.

I cried. 

All I could do was to pray for her in silence! 

May be one day I could build the courage to tell her how perfect she’s is in my ♥. 

The One Thing Men Want More Than Sex

My Reading Notes

For more on it switch to The Good Man Project , Writer : Jed Diamond

So, what do men want more than sex?

We’ve all heard that women need to feel loved to have sex, but men need to have sex to feel loved. Let’s look more deeply at what it is exactly that men are getting when they get sex. Sure, there is the physical pleasure, but there is a deeper need that is being satisfied. I call it the need for a safe harbor.

“Always wanting sex” is part of the male persona we wear to show we’re manly. What we really want is a safe harbor where we can take refuge, relax, and be cared for. In other words, we want the feeling of being nurtured that most of us didn’t get enough of when we were children. But admitting these needs makes us feel like little boys, not big strong men. Better to be manly with our sexual desire and then once we’re inside her body, we can relax, be ourselves, and be infused with love. That’s the hidden desire we have when we have sex.

One of the things I love getting from my wife, Carlin, is to lay in her lap and have my scalp rubbed. This is one, wonderful, safe harbor. I don’t need to have sex in order to have this need satisfied. I just have to ask for it. Here, I’m being touched deeply, accepted completely. I don’t have to perform or prove myself. I just must be willing to be deeply vulnerable.

It takes a lot of time and maturity for men to admit to themselves that they need a safe harbor where they can be nurtured and embraced by a woman. It takes a lot of courage to let his woman know he may want sex, but more important is his need for security, love, and nurture. It requires a level of wisdom to know that allowing ourselves to be as vulnerable as a child may be the manliest thing a man can do.

How to increase the ‘love hormone’ in your body

Oxytocin is a hormone produced primarily in the hypothalamus and acts as a neurotransmitter in the brain. It plays a huge role in the female reproduction system during child birth and with lactation. But, the hormone is best known as the “love hormone” because of how it increases with touch and stimulation. This powerful hormone plays a huge role in relationships and how we partner up with others.

HERE ARE WAYS TO INCREASE OXYTOCIN LEVELS IN YOUR BODY:

1. PHYSICAL TOUCH.
Hugs, kisses, and cuddling increase oxytocin levels quickly. As per WebMd a research on oxytocin and how men react to sex showed that under the influence of oxytocin, two areas of the brain responsible for feelings of reward and pleasure lit up when men saw their partner’s faces. But the sight of other women had the opposite effect, suppressing feelings of pleasure. Oxytocin triggers a reward system that activates and releases when we are in loving relationships. Physical touch is stimulating. Oxytocin is released when you have an orgasm and for men it is only released when it is with someone they love.

2. WORDS OF ENCOURAGEMENT.
When we hear a compliment we feel good about ourselves. We believe we are being loved and held in high esteem. Oxytocin works on this level as well. The “feel good” hormone increases when we are caring and compassionate with another, or vice versa. Words have a powerful frequency. When we feel loved and we relate to it oxytocin increases. The same goes to giving a compliment to another. The kindness you put out into the world also increases oxytocin.

3. LISTEN.
Everyone wants to feel acknowledged. We all want to know that we are being heard and accepted. Listening is an amazing way to increase oxytocin. When you are present with another you can feel the connection. Listen attentively. Put the phone down. Close the computer. Make time to be one-on-one with another. You will find a sense of reward that is priceless. Also, listening to music or something we enjoy releases dosages of the little hormone as well.

4. SMILE AND LAUGH.
Have you observed how kids play? They smile and laugh a lot. Whenever they are in that moment, they are releasing oxytocin. Smiling is contagious. It’s one of those things that you cannot help but return to another when it is geared at you. Research has shown that laughter and smiling improve health through many physiological changes. Most of the time it happens unconsciously. Happy people live for joyous moments. Their oxytocin is constantly being released. Laughter creates a sense of joy that is the biggest trade off in life.

5. MEDITATE AND PRAY.
When you are clear-headed and relaxed your hormones are balance. Oxytocin increases when you are not under the fight or flight mode. Prayer and meditation allow the mind to detach from stress. It lowers blood pressure and allows the body to feel balanced. Mind, body and spirit find a way to connect. Make time for it at some point in the day. You can do it for five minutes anywhere.

6. EXERCISE.
Endorphins and oxytocin increase when we exercise. Oxygen travels to the brain and to other parts of our bodies. Exercise is not just for keeping your body in tact and functioning properly. The amount of hormones released to the brain are also beneficial. You don’t have to go to a gym. Walking around the block or doing gentle yoga can bring on these benefits as well.

7. CRY.
Studies have shown that suppressing your emotions lowers oxytocin levels. Withholding your feelings and not dealing with them causes stress and other physical issues in the body. Your emotional state should be imbalanced with your spiritual and physical bodies. The release of tears allows the body to return to a state of calmness as oppose to holding on to anger or frustration.

8. GIVE.
We feel good when we give, volunteer and do for others. Give gifts, give your time, give to charity and give thanks. Gratitude is a huge factor on how we feel. Give of yourself and watch how great you will feel. Oxytocin produces the feeling of bonding with others. Giving is a form of human bonding. This is a natural and easy way to increase your oxytocin while helping another.

9. GET CREATIVE.
Creativity helps de-stress the mental mind. While you are creating you aren’t worrying or fearing anything. As you paint, draw, sew, journal, write, play an instrument, or anything that takes you out of a normal routine, you are allowing the good hormones to take over in the brain. Endorphins are released and oxytocin is charged up. Making time to use your talents is imperative to inducing joy.

Source : Power of Positivity

 

Touching moment

Today, I had an appointment with the doctor. I didn’t found any auto near by, so I started walking down the bridge. After taking couple of steps, I turned behind to see ki auto aa to nahi raha !

And then I saw an auto coming my way, andar teen ladies baithi thi..par ye dekhte huae bhi maine himmat nahi haari aur auto ko rokne ke liye haath dikhaya..auto chaalak ne mujhe dekh liya tha…par ruka nahi..usmein baithi ek aunty (65 ke aaspaaas age hogi) ne auto se jhaak kar mujhe dekha..main tab bhi haath hila rahi thi auto rokne ko. Aunty ne auto rokne ko kaha, ye dekhkar main daud laga kar auto ke taraf bhaagi. Aur jaise hee baithne ko hui to dekha vo aunty auto ke piche jo samaan rakhne ki jagah hoti hai vahaan chadhkar baith gayi thi…maine kaha aunty aap peeche kyu..meri baat ko kaat kar unhone kahaa – ‘baith jaao seat pe..main theek hu..!’

Kuch hee minutes mein..Bridge utarkar ..left side par hospital aa chuka tha, auto ruka..main soch rahi thi kitne paise dungi…utne mein hee auto chaalak ne kaha ..rehne dijiye ! Peeche baithi aunty ne aashirwaad mein haath uthaaye aur kaha koi nahi beti..!

Main sneh ke in palo ko yaadon ke sunahre pannon mein samet aage badh di! 

Sach muuch Sneh, Prem, bado ka aashirwaad aur dulaar : amulya hai!