Habits of people who have grown in their lives

Habits create difference. And there are some habits I have witnessed/experienced in those who have grown in their lives. 

Growth makes us geneuine. 

We learn to skip over exaggeration of things.

We hold onto the inner voice. 

We do things out of love & not for love. 

We build and strengthen our little circle of friends and family.

We work on ourselves and also help others to do their work of art. 

We don’t induldge into the good and bad, instead, we switch frquently to gratitude mode. 

We love formal dresses, however, stay far away from formalities. 

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Three things on my rememberance list

I have been a keen observant of my life’s philosophy; it has changed alot and it keeps changing.Though there are certain things which got permanently installed in my life’s philosophy (in my attitude and in actions) 

Those top 3 things are –

1. Fitness : I believe in health, healing, fitness and abundance. 

2. Gratitude : I believe that everything is a Prasaad from the highest source. 

3. Living for my inner circle : There are people who matter most to me and for them I am ready to give my cent percent.

Touching moment

Today, I had an appointment with the doctor. I didn’t found any auto near by, so I started walking down the bridge. After taking couple of steps, I turned behind to see ki auto aa to nahi raha !

And then I saw an auto coming my way, andar teen ladies baithi thi..par ye dekhte huae bhi maine himmat nahi haari aur auto ko rokne ke liye haath dikhaya..auto chaalak ne mujhe dekh liya tha…par ruka nahi..usmein baithi ek aunty (65 ke aaspaaas age hogi) ne auto se jhaak kar mujhe dekha..main tab bhi haath hila rahi thi auto rokne ko. Aunty ne auto rokne ko kaha, ye dekhkar main daud laga kar auto ke taraf bhaagi. Aur jaise hee baithne ko hui to dekha vo aunty auto ke piche jo samaan rakhne ki jagah hoti hai vahaan chadhkar baith gayi thi…maine kaha aunty aap peeche kyu..meri baat ko kaat kar unhone kahaa – ‘baith jaao seat pe..main theek hu..!’

Kuch hee minutes mein..Bridge utarkar ..left side par hospital aa chuka tha, auto ruka..main soch rahi thi kitne paise dungi…utne mein hee auto chaalak ne kaha ..rehne dijiye ! Peeche baithi aunty ne aashirwaad mein haath uthaaye aur kaha koi nahi beti..!

Main sneh ke in palo ko yaadon ke sunahre pannon mein samet aage badh di! 

Sach muuch Sneh, Prem, bado ka aashirwaad aur dulaar : amulya hai!

This is what life is all about

I used to keep the window of my toilet open, however, when I noticed that a pigeon (Kabootar..) sits there and raat khidki par hee guzaarta hai..pata nahi tabse hee..something within me pushed me to close the window so that kabootar achche se baith sakey, bina bhay ke !

Now, pigeon knows me! 

He is cofident ki vo safe hai, uska dhyaan rakha jaata hai! Aur agar ab khidki khol bhi dein, to vo side mein khisak jaata hai, ghabaraake bhaag nahi jaata, baitha rehta hai..nishchint !

And this is what life is all about! Isn’t it? To create an environment of love, care and belief ; so people (living beings) can feel safe, relaxed, comfortable and at ease in our presence.

Such little acts of care, transfom us deeply. 

Getting in the vicinity of simplification

Around fifteen days before, I received a call from a lady stating that she wanted to illustrate the cashback benefits of credit card to me. She asked me for the time, and I said, I’ll be available by the end of Dec, 2016. (pre-assuming that she understands the sign that I am uninterested and won’t call back again 😉 ) 

After 15 days after she called me back!

And I patiently started listening to her offers on cashback over the shopping one does per month (provided, one couriers all my shopping bills to her)! She asked me to send an IVR for confirmation of this scheme. And before I could say ‘Yes or No’ – I asked her to give me one day time to think. (again, trying to give her indications that I am not interested!) 

After 24 hours, she called me back!  

I ignored the phone. (because somewhere I was hesitant to say NO to her!) 

After few minutes, she called me again! 

And this time I received her call, with the mindset that I will explain her why I don’t need this scheme! I tried my best to explain her -‘that see I am not a shopaholic and my monthly expenses are very low, I stay in hostel, I eat in mess, I only spend in paying institution fee, buying some fruits, recharging my phone, buying clothes once in 4-5 months, ‘, however, she also presented me hundreds of reasons why I should take this scheme! 

Seeing that the conversation is not making sense anymore, I immediately took the straight route. I told her that, ‘I am thankful to you for telling me countless benefits of the scheme , however, at this point of time this is not in my priority!’ 

And the conversation ended gracefully, thanking each other  for the time. 

Many times, we take the indirect route.A route where we pre-assume that the other person can understand our choices, lifestyle, habits, love, care, avoidance or preferences by just some indirect hints/signals. And this complicates the whole life and wastes time & energy also (not only ours, but of others also!) .

I learned that one doesn’t needs to be rude to say NO, it can be delivered politely. I learned that one doesn’t have to avoid or block the numbers to get rid of some situations, it can be handled by taking care of current priorities! 

And this is how we can simplify things in every domain of our life (prioritizing them as they arrive), handling one by one. While working on simplification, we are actually silently going away from complexity!  Focus matters!

2016 Reflections

2016 gave me opportunities to grow in both personal and professional dimensions.

During the 12 months journey – I invested time on things which helped me to push my comfort zone. 

Personal zone :

  • Invested early morning hours on physical fitness and silence.
  • Wrote thoughts, quotes, to-do list, to-be list, happy moments, gratitude prayer and things which bothered me in my journal.
  • Traveled and explored new places.
  • Silently and gracefully removed myself from the lives of people who weren’t good for my mental health.
  • Cultivated the attitude of gratitude/thankfulness towards life. No matter what turned up, I deeply thanked existence for it!
  • Associated and met people who are far better than me. Never ever thought I will meet the creator of the wordpress theme (I am currently using on this blog) at his location. Thanks Raam.
  • Learned to (mostly) avoid and ignore things which are rubbish for healthy and happy life.
  • Loved, appreciated and brought smiles (sometimes unending laughter) on the faces of people who are part of my inner circle.
  • Death took away some near ones. It’s very difficult, it’s painful to even think that the person with whom we shared our journey will never come back! I could only pray and thank them for all their contribution in making my life better. 

    In professional (academic) area

    • Attended 2 International conference. 
    • Wrote and edited one full research paper (6 pages) by myself.
    • Co-authored and submitted two more research articles.

    In all, 2016 taught me to be :

     More patient,

    Deeply thankful,

    and 

    Walk one step at a time!

    Creating is tough, sharing is not 

    Very recently, I noticed that someone used the nature photographs I clicked few months before while visiting series of villages near Jodhpur, Rajasthan, India for promoting their upcoming travel tour at the same place.

    And instead of being happy, I got sad. 

    I felt bad that I spent days in exploring the village and someone just used the art work for their business promotions without asking or even giving credit or acknowledgement!

    After sometime, I stepped from everthing to allow my mind to return to equilibrium. And in calmness I tried to collect all the moments when I shared or used other artists artwork (write up, photo, idea, status update, research work etc) without giving them due credits or acknowledgment or when required their permission.

    And thankfully, I found none!!

    All of a sudden environment inside me turned joyous.My heart sent all the gratitude to all the artists who influenced and helped me through their work.

    With gratitude the feeling of sadness melted and in the end I walked holding the hands of peace.