Getting in the vicinity of simplification

Around fifteen days before, I received a call from a lady stating that she wanted to illustrate the cashback benefits of credit card to me. She asked me for the time, and I said, I’ll be available by the end of Dec, 2016. (pre-assuming that she understands the sign that I am uninterested and won’t call back again 😉 ) 

After 15 days after she called me back!

And I patiently started listening to her offers on cashback over the shopping one does per month (provided, one couriers all my shopping bills to her)! She asked me to send an IVR for confirmation of this scheme. And before I could say ‘Yes or No’ – I asked her to give me one day time to think. (again, trying to give her indications that I am not interested!) 

After 24 hours, she called me back!  

I ignored the phone. (because somewhere I was hesitant to say NO to her!) 

After few minutes, she called me again! 

And this time I received her call, with the mindset that I will explain her why I don’t need this scheme! I tried my best to explain her -‘that see I am not a shopaholic and my monthly expenses are very low, I stay in hostel, I eat in mess, I only spend in paying institution fee, buying some fruits, recharging my phone, buying clothes once in 4-5 months, ‘, however, she also presented me hundreds of reasons why I should take this scheme! 

Seeing that the conversation is not making sense anymore, I immediately took the straight route. I told her that, ‘I am thankful to you for telling me countless benefits of the scheme , however, at this point of time this is not in my priority!’ 

And the conversation ended gracefully, thanking each other  for the time. 

Many times, we take the indirect route.A route where we pre-assume that the other person can understand our choices, lifestyle, habits, love, care, avoidance or preferences by just some indirect hints/signals. And this complicates the whole life and wastes time & energy also (not only ours, but of others also!) .

I learned that one doesn’t needs to be rude to say NO, it can be delivered politely. I learned that one doesn’t have to avoid or block the numbers to get rid of some situations, it can be handled by taking care of current priorities! 

And this is how we can simplify things in every domain of our life (prioritizing them as they arrive), handling one by one. While working on simplification, we are actually silently going away from complexity!  Focus matters!

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Loose talks,  people and inner smileys 

Loose talks, something we all do. 

This week, I realised that ‘loose talks’ when done with close people creates wonderful inner smileys [ 😊😆😘😍],  However, when done with random formality nibhaao people, it drains our internal energy [🙇🙈😖] 

What to do when they ignore?

What to do when someone is misbehaving or delibrately avoiding/ ignoring you?

Switch all your energy to the best person in your life.

Who is the best person in your life?

YOU !

Can’t afford to depend on any one else for happiness.

Spend time with yourself, do things which make your heart sing, invest time in creating an art and eat some healthy stuff!  In this way we learn to direct our mind towards thoughts which are much more powerful & harmonious!

From the conversation with Coach Sukhi Longia, thanks so much Coach.

What to do when you are confused?

What’s confusion?

Confusion means not sure whether to move or stay standing or go backwards, go left or right.

What to do then?

Take the next step, do not stick to a situation. Take immediate action. Take a leap of faith and do something. 

MOVE! 

That’s the only choice winner has. That is to take action. The next step ends up in a mistake! ;P

Who cares?

Make mistakes.

Learn from them.

Keep repeating the process.

They will call you successful, you know why?

Because you dared to do the mistakes that they feared to. 

Now they start calling you a genius.

Aisa bhi Hota hai! 😀

[Early morning conversation with my Coach - Sukhi Longia] 

 

Dinner with the Master

27 Oct 2015.

Today, had a beautiful day with Prof.. In the morning we’d tea in the canteen and dinner in the evening at Gypsy.

On the dinner table we discussed about research, relationship with the Guide, importance of focus and clarity in PhD. Even Mam told me that we’ll move out in the night for clicking night scenic beauty. I’m a big fan of her observation skills.

I expressed how this white-blue kurti salwar combination she’s wearing suits her and even mentioned that she looks beautiful in pink. Appreciation brings joy and I could sense that glow on her face.
While coming to the hostel, in the auto, she told me how thankful she’s to me for the Ajmer raksha sootra because every time the color of the sootra fades she visits Ajmer and gets a new one. This time she didn’t got the time to go and while she was thinking this..new sootra  reached her through my channel. I felt deeply humbled at that moment. And realized the power of love and connection.

While entering into the GPRA gate we saw (colleague) M… and E… E passed smile to me while M chose to look down. I didn’t noticed M’s behavior but Mam noticed it. She asked me why she behaved like that. I said, she’s is strange and unpredictable sometimes. 😀 We’d a big laugh.

While going to the room, I said good night and thanked mam for such a nice time and for the dinner as well.

Take away :
1. Be extremely focused in PhD.
2. Make connections. Deeper connections with few people rather than creating surface contacts. Quality matters!
3. Laugh out loud.

Conversation with the master

Oct.18,2015

When I was coming with Prof  in an auto she asked me about my visit to Barefoot college with my research colleagues and Advisor. I replied, it was good but very tiring. Then she politely said, take it as an experience Amrita.

After a pause she said, wherever you visit to demonstrate or share things you are working on you should write a paper/ submit in conference proceedings. She gave examples of her Bishnoi project and the recent village visit (of which I was also a part).

Then I told her, that we only demonstrated our Advisor’s work. Again she has a brilliant answer to it. She said, there would be something which your advisor has left – there would be something which you can add to it and propose a written manuscript in reputed journals.

With a firm voice she said, see in PhD  – ‘YOU SHOULD BE VERY FOCUSSED.’  I nodded my head in affirmation.

Every conversation with her becomes a learning experience for me. I can’t explain how grateful I feel for the connection with her. Simply amazing!

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