The most destructive ‘I’ & the stepping back with a constructive ‘Pause’

Well, ‘I’ can be very destructive. I realized this while coming across people who behaved completely opposite of my hidden expectations from them. It made me very upset. It made me think ‘Why me?’ This I is so destructive, that it always wants people to behave as per our convenience. And when something surprisingly opposite happens, it enforces us to feel heartbroken. 

Very recently, one such incident took with me.In seconds of time, the hurricane of ‘expectations broken’ type of highly judgmental thoughts filled my mind. I kept noticing the waves of thoughts rising within me. In the meanwhile, I went to take bath.  I ate my breakfast then and I listened to music too. After doing these three activities, everything evaporated. The fog of stupid thoughts was gone in the quiet light of ‘pause’

I understood the magnificence and power of a pause. 

Taking a pause brings the clarity that – we are not our thoughts! And Life is much more than accumulating the baggage of others! 


Prominent Satisfaction

If I look back, I observe that I have broken lot of promises I have done to myself; may it be the promise of simply witnessing the sunrise or may it be writing down 500 words daily or may it be submitting technical articles before deadlines. I know the guilt of dishonoring my words (commitments) may it be small or big! 

I hated this feeling of embarrassment which comes within whenever I failed to keep a promise to myself. 

So, in order to work upon this, I changed the way I promised myself. I stopped promising many things to myself. And I shifted to promising ONE small thing for a day. For eg.

  • today, write one blog post 
  • today, hit the gym
  • today, sit in silence for 10 mins

By keeping one small promise in a day, I experienced the biggest self-satisfaction. 

I learned that the greatest contentment comes from keeping a promise to your own self. It feels no less than a reward, to honor your words and execute it into an action, no matter how small it may be. 

What you promised today? 

If there’s a sin, it’s this..

Well, I don’t believe in the philosophy of sin, however, if there’s is any such thing here it is :

‘To make other person believe that he/she deserves less’

This is equivalent to killing the greatness within a living being!

I have seen such sins being committed by teachers, professional trainers and elders – who make students/children feel that ‘they are not worth it, they don’t deserve’ in anger!

This can leave weak imprints on their mental dashboard, which might lower their self-esteem.

If you can’t encourage, atleast don’t discourage!

Returning Back On the Blog

I haven’t been active from past couple of months on the blog.  Though I have been writing privately in my journal, but didn’t sort of took out time to draft and publish on it. 

Well, life is changing.

My perspective towards things, events and people around me is experiencing a shift. These days, I have become more of a private person. I don’t jump into social media to post the things which are going in my mind. In fact, if I notice, my presence on social media like Facebook and twitter, I have observed that I just scroll the timeline and log off!

I have found that I have started communicating, talking and taking great care of people who are part of my inner circle. I have starting focusing on deepening the relations instead of widening//expanding them! 

I am happy to re-start, come back to my quiet hut, my quiet blog! ❤  

Don’t Mess With Big John

Source : Nithya Shanti

One day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and began driving along his route. There were no problems for the first few stops. A few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well.

At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a guy got on. Seven feet tall, built like a WWE wrestler, biceps as big as tyres.

He glared at the driver and said, “Big John doesn’t need to pay!” and sat down at the back.

The driver was five feet three, thin, and basically meek. Naturally, he didn’t argue with Big John, but he wasn’t happy about this at all.

The next day the same thing happened. Big John got on again, refused to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the one after that and so on. This began happening daily.

This agitated the bus driver no end, who even started losing sleep over the way Big John was shamelessly taking advantage of him.

Finally he could stand it no longer.

He signed up for a body building course, martial arts from a former Navy Seal and even street fighting training and all that good stuff.

By the end of the summer, he had become quite strong. He could do a hundred push ups on his fingers and his punches could even burst open punching bags. What’s more, he felt really good about himself and was brimming with confidence.

So on the next Monday, when Big John once again got on the bus and said, “Big John doesn’t need to pay!” the driver stood up, glared back at him, and shouted, “REALLY! WHY IS THAT?”

With a surprised look on his face, Big John softly replied…

“Big John has a bus pass.”


There are moments, when we ASS-U-ME! And in such moments we become scared of Big John! 😀 Don’t we?

How to make everyday the happiest day of your life

The post is originally written by Nithya Shanti, he is a spiritual teacher. 

(1) Make a list of five qualities you wish to fully embody in this life for profound inner peace and exemplary outer accomplishments. For example: Wisdom, Compassion, Gratitude, Joyful Service and Letting Go.

(2) Then find an image or phrase or symbol that represents all five together in perfect harmony. For example: “Being like a Sun, loving everyone, spreading delight, merging into light.”

(3) Now start your day with at least 3 mins of seeing, saying and feeling this inspiring image, phrase or symbol in your heart and every little cell. See yourself living these five qualities in an authentic and caring way all day. Fill your day with short intervals of remembering these qualities, especially when there is nothing else you are occupied in. And end your day with at least 3 mins of reflecting on where in the day you were in alignment with these qualities and where there is still some room for joyful improvement.

You have done your best. Now you can rejoice and take a rest