Don’t Mess With Big John

Source : Nithya Shanti

One day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and began driving along his route. There were no problems for the first few stops. A few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well.

At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a guy got on. Seven feet tall, built like a WWE wrestler, biceps as big as tyres.

He glared at the driver and said, “Big John doesn’t need to pay!” and sat down at the back.

The driver was five feet three, thin, and basically meek. Naturally, he didn’t argue with Big John, but he wasn’t happy about this at all.

The next day the same thing happened. Big John got on again, refused to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the one after that and so on. This began happening daily.

This agitated the bus driver no end, who even started losing sleep over the way Big John was shamelessly taking advantage of him.

Finally he could stand it no longer.

He signed up for a body building course, martial arts from a former Navy Seal and even street fighting training and all that good stuff.

By the end of the summer, he had become quite strong. He could do a hundred push ups on his fingers and his punches could even burst open punching bags. What’s more, he felt really good about himself and was brimming with confidence.

So on the next Monday, when Big John once again got on the bus and said, “Big John doesn’t need to pay!” the driver stood up, glared back at him, and shouted, “REALLY! WHY IS THAT?”

With a surprised look on his face, Big John softly replied…

“Big John has a bus pass.”


There are moments, when we ASS-U-ME! And in such moments we become scared of Big John! πŸ˜€ Don’t we?


How to make everyday the happiest day of your life

The post is originally written by Nithya Shanti, he is a spiritual teacher.Β 

(1) Make a list of five qualities you wish to fully embody in this life for profound inner peace and exemplary outer accomplishments. For example: Wisdom, Compassion, Gratitude, Joyful Service and Letting Go.

(2) Then find an image or phrase or symbol that represents all five together in perfect harmony. For example: “Being like a Sun, loving everyone, spreading delight, merging into light.”

(3) Now start your day with at least 3 mins of seeing, saying and feeling this inspiring image, phrase or symbol in your heart and every little cell. See yourself living these five qualities in an authentic and caring way all day. Fill your day with short intervals of remembering these qualities, especially when there is nothing else you are occupied in. And end your day with at least 3 mins of reflecting on where in the day you were in alignment with these qualities and where there is still some room for joyful improvement.

You have done your best. Now you can rejoice and take a rest

Five Important Life Lessons

Note : By Nithya Shanti

This is what I read today, wonderful lessons.

Five lessons that make us think about the way we treat people…

1 – First Important Lesson – Cleaning Lady.

During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read
the last one:

‘What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?’

Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50’s, but how would I know her name?

I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade.

‘Absolutely,’ said the professor. ‘In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do
is smile and say ‘hello.’

I’ve never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.

2. – Second Important Lesson – Pickup in the Rain

One night, at 11:3 0 p.m., an older African American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride.

Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 60s. The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab.

She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man’s door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached.

It read: Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband’s bedside just before he passed away.. God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.’

Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.

3 – Third Important Lesson – Always remember those who serve.

In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him.

‘How much is an ice cream sundae?’ he asked.

‘Fifty cents,’ replied the waitress.

The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it.

‘Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?’ he inquired.

By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient.

Thirty-five cents,’ she brusquely replied.

The little boy again counted his coins.

‘I’ll have the plain ice cream,’ he said.

The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies.

You see, he couldn’t have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.

4 – Fourth Important Lesson. – The obstacle in our Path.

In ancient times, a King had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock

Some of the king’s wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the King for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way.

Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the side of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded.

After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the King indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway.

The peasant learned what few people in the world truly understand:
Within every obstacle lies a golden opportunity to improve our condition.

5 – Fifth Important Lesson – Giving When it Counts

Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only
chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness.

The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister.

I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, ‘Yes I’ll do it if it will save her.’

As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded.

He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, ‘Will I start to die right away’.

Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her but he had chosen to save her anyway.


Gratitude to Geir Ove Knutsen for sharing these five stories with me.

Let us all take these beautiful lessons to heart today

1) In our life we will meet many people. All are significant. They all deserve our attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say ‘hello’.

2) Never pass an opportunity to serve others. Our smallest gestures showing care can affect their life profoundly.

3) Always remember those who serve you, even in the smallest way. Never take them for granted even if they take you for granted!

4) Within every obstacle lies a golden opportunity to improve our condition.

5) Give when it counts. Give without counting. Give!

May you abide in well-being.

What Just Spilled?


What Just Spilled?

You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you, spilling the coffee all over.

Why did you spill the coffee?
“Well because someone bumped into me, of course!”, you say.


You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea.

Whatever is inside our cup, is what spills out.

Therefore, when life comes along and shakes us up (which it will!), whatever is inside comes right out. We can only fake it, until we get nicely rattled.

So we have to ask ourselves, “What’s in my cup?”

When our ego is triggered, when unwanted things happen or wanted things don’t happen, what spills out? How do we typically respond?

With openness, curiosity, patience, peace and humility? Or anger, bitterness, harsh words and temper tantrums?

Such questions keep us spiritually honest and grounded. They reveal to us just how far we have already come and just how much work we still have to do.

Let us work towards filling our cups with acceptance, appreciation, joy, words of affirmation for ourselves; and kindness, gentleness and love for others.

Keep saying ‘Thank You’

Notes : Written by Nithya Shanti 

Keep saying “Thank you”. 

When going through difficult times, keep saying “Thank you”. 
When going through pleasant times, keep saying “Thank you”. 
When going through uncertain times, keep saying “Thank you”. 
When stuck, when frustrated, when alone, when sick, when in surgery, or the dentist’s chair, when criticised, when praised, admired, felicitated, adored, loved, just. keep. saying. “Thank you”. 
Everything goes smoother. Everything gets easier. Everything bends and moves and shifts and adapts to support, accommodate, fulfill and propel you back to your own source. 
You torment yourself when you forget to say “Thank you”. 
You liberate yourself when you keep saying “Thank you”. 

Thank you to who? 
To life. To everything. To the source of everything. To you.

Keep saying “Thank you”. Keep feeling thankful. Be a living expression of thankfulness. A big lump of gratitude in human disguise.

Subtle Distinctions

​Note : By Nithya Shanti

Subtle Distinctions

I’ve noticed that making slight changes in the way we use common phrases can create a world of a difference in our perception and experience. Here are a few examples that come to mind…
1) This morning my friend Swatantra sent me a message “Thanks and make a great day”.  Instead of saying “have”, she said “make”. Can you sense how one is passive and hopeful while the other is active and intentional? I appreciated her lovely insight into this.
2) I found that sometimes more accurate than saying “I love you” is saying “I love us”. In a relationship, it is often the special interplay / exchange / field of possibilities that awakens between the two seemingly separate individuals that is most nourishing and enthralling. “I love us” means I love what both of us represent and bring to this relationship. I still say I love you, and sometimes I also like to say I love us. I love who I am in your presence and who you are and who we are together.  

3) Instead of appreciating others saying “What I have seen in you is…”, which is based on what we have observed in the past, we can say, “What I see / sense in you is…”, which means looking past their superficial persona into underlying gifts, qualities and potentials. The very act of seeing and saying this activates untapped possibilities. It magnifies appreciation to a whole new level. What we see in others we evoke in others. 

4) Sometimes people tell me that I look like Farhan Akhtar – a Bollywood star. I playfully correct them that he looks like me πŸ˜‰. This is mostly in jest, but it is also a subtle and important distinction. To tell someone they look like a famous person is to put that distant person on a pedestal. To tell someone that a famous person looks like them is to acknowledge the person actually in front of you. 
5) When people ask me about my followers or even refer to themselves as my followers, I gently say “you mean my friends”. Followers follow. It’s a pretty one way relationship. Saying “Friends” sets up a more equal and dynamic relationship where each ones skills, abilities and calling gets acknowledged without automatically assuming one is better / wiser than others. 
I could go on. For now this seems adequate. The main point I suppose I am making here is that we can become increasingly sensitive to the implications of what we say, how we say it, and the kind of experience and frequency it generates. 
You are of-course welcome to share examples of subtle distinctions you can think of in the comments below.

Eye opening thought

​Notes : Message received on watsapp

Simply outstanding thought!!! 

Do read it  !!
1. Name the 5 wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last 5 winners of the  Miss  Universe.
3. Name the last 10 people who won the Nobel Prize for Physics. 
How did you do?













The point is, none of us remembers the headlines of yesterday !!
Even though these people must be the best in their fields !!
Applause dies !!
Awards are tarnished and 


are forgotten …..!!
Here’s another quiz:
Let’s see how this goes: 
1. Name 5 Teachers who added your journey through school.
2. Name 5 friends who helped you through  difficult times.
3. Name 5 people who taught you something worthwhile.
4. Name 5 people who make you feel special.
5. Name 5 People you enjoy spending time with.





The people who make a difference in your life are NOT the ones with prestigeous awards and loads of money !!
Life is full of ordinary people who have made the world a better place for you !!
Cherish them !!
Hold Them Tight !!
Perhaps sometimes it’s ‘Special’ to be ‘Ordinary’ !!!