I was talking on phone to my younger cousin brother today. We discussed so many things from cricket to social media activities..from cultivating good habits to setting goals.
We also remembered our childhood, our days of pure innocence!
And then suddenly, we both switched to quiet mode. We were silent, trying to collect..control our emotions.
We said, hum kitne badey ho gaye naa.. (we grew up fast!)
Life kitni change ho jaati hai.. Jaldi jaldi (Life changes with the speed of light.)
And I could not forget the last lines he said, before keeping the phone. He said, whenever I come to hometown, whenever I cross the platform no. 1 of the railway, I remember you.. I remember the last time we were standing together… during your shaadi ki vidaayi !
Listening to his words, I realized that you don’t have any idea how people miss (remember) you!
I realized that we should take out time to talk to people in person.
We should take out time to appreciate their presence in our lives.
We need to drop off grudges and create an environment of love & healthy communication with people around us.
We should try to make others comfortable and happy in your presence.
Here are some quick updates about things I have been doing –
- Spending almost an hour in gym. Working on physical energy. Enjoying it.
- Sitting in silence for couple of minutes and allowing the calmness to flow through.
- Spending time in writing quality technical stuff, in support of research (PhD)
- Limiting my digital life.
I received three simple yet powerful tips on creating a happy married life from Srinagesh R (Uncle). He is a loving husband, counselor and a writer.
This is what he suggested –
- Ask yourself what you should do to keep your spouse happy. Both husband and wife should ask this question, honestly and work on it.
- Fights are normal. But words used are important. Fight on issues, without importing unconnected incidents, people, etc. Never use finite words like – ‘I will never trust you again, I will never talk to you again, etc.
- Never allow communication to be broken for more than one day!
I hope these three small yet powerful tips help us to create a happy relationship.
दूसरों से छोड़ो, कभी सोचा है खुद से कितना सच बोलते हैं हम ?!
(Forget about the world, have you ever thought how true you are (/have been) to your self ?)
Very recently, one of our colleague went to Canada for presenting her research work. And also, she got post-doc position there. Of all those who came to knew about this news (in the lab) had their own opinions. Most of them said, ‘this IS called LUCK’ while some were found to give all the credit to her Ph.D. superviser.
But no one thought about the pain, pressure and struggle she went through since last 5 years!
(No one remembered her dark times, when research guide allocated to her (when she joined in for PhD) left the institute after two years. She had to start all over again from zero. No one appreciated her patience, perseverance and willingness to continue with the research, even if she has to take support and guidance of faculties from other institutes!)
It’s seems convenient to point out at the easy road of luck, over accepting/appreciating the extra-miles taken by the person. Funny, isn’t it?
‘I take every yes, a no, and a may be as a true decision. Because I know I deal with an adult in each situation!’