I received three simple yet powerful tips on creating a happy married life from Srinagesh R (Uncle). He is a loving husband, counselor and a writer.
This is what he suggested –
- Ask yourself what you should do to keep your spouse happy. Both husband and wife should ask this question, honestly and work on it.
- Fights are normal. But words used are important. Fight on issues, without importing unconnected incidents, people, etc. Never use finite words like – ‘I will never trust you again, I will never talk to you again, etc.
- Never allow communication to be broken for more than one day!
I hope these three small yet powerful tips help us to create a happy relationship.
दूसरों से छोड़ो, कभी सोचा है खुद से कितना सच बोलते हैं हम ?!
(Forget about the world, have you ever thought how true you are (/have been) to your self ?)
Very recently, one of our colleague went to Canada for presenting her research work. And also, she got post-doc position there. Of all those who came to knew about this news (in the lab) had their own opinions. Most of them said, ‘this IS called LUCK’ while some were found to give all the credit to her Ph.D. superviser.
But no one thought about the pain, pressure and struggle she went through since last 5 years!
(No one remembered her dark times, when research guide allocated to her (when she joined in for PhD) left the institute after two years. She had to start all over again from zero. No one appreciated her patience, perseverance and willingness to continue with the research, even if she has to take support and guidance of faculties from other institutes!)
It’s seems convenient to point out at the easy road of luck, over accepting/appreciating the extra-miles taken by the person. Funny, isn’t it?
‘I take every yes, a no, and a may be as a true decision. Because I know I deal with an adult in each situation!’
Talk to yourself about what you what you wish to deeply experience in life. And not the opposite.
Because what we think and say to ourselves on a daily basis gets (is getting) manifested somehow somewhere in reality.
Be cautious, take good care of how you communicate with your own self.
That moment when people (some one) remember you, recognize you, identify you (not because of your external beauty) because of the impact/inner shift you have created in them through your conversation /inner qualities/attitude.
One such moment recently happened with me..and all I could do was to humbly bow down to the existence!