Getting in the vicinity of simplification

Around fifteen days before, I received a call from a lady stating that she wanted to illustrate the cashback benefits of credit card to me. She asked me for the time, and I said, I’ll be available by the end of Dec, 2016. (pre-assuming that she understands the sign that I am uninterested and won’t call back again ūüėČ ) 

After 15 days after she called me back!

And I patiently started listening to her offers on cashback over the shopping one does per month (provided, one couriers all my shopping bills to her)! She asked me to send an IVR for confirmation of this scheme. And before I could say ‘Yes or No’ – I asked her to give me one day time to think. (again, trying to give her indications that I am not interested!) 

After 24 hours, she called me back!  

I ignored the phone. (because somewhere I was hesitant to say NO to her!) 

After few minutes, she called me again! 

And this time I received her call, with the mindset that I will explain her why I don’t need this scheme! I tried my best to explain her -‘that see I am not a shopaholic and my monthly expenses are very low, I stay in hostel, I eat in mess, I only spend in paying institution fee, buying some fruits, recharging my phone, buying clothes once in 4-5 months, ‘, however, she also presented me hundreds of reasons why I should take this scheme! 

Seeing that the conversation is not making sense anymore, I immediately took the straight route. I told her that, ‘I am thankful to you for telling me countless benefits of the scheme , however, at this point of time this is not in my priority!’ 

And the conversation ended gracefully, thanking each other  for the time. 

Many times, we take the indirect route.A route where we pre-assume that the other person can understand our choices, lifestyle, habits, love, care, avoidance or preferences by just some indirect hints/signals. And this complicates the whole life and wastes time & energy also (not only ours, but of others also!) .

I learned that one doesn’t needs to be rude to say NO, it can be delivered politely. I learned that one doesn’t have to avoid or block the numbers to get rid of some situations, it can be handled by taking care of current priorities! 

And this is how we can simplify things in every domain of our life (prioritizing them as they arrive), handling one by one. While working on simplification, we are actually silently going away from complexity!  Focus matters!

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Our own horizon

Get a degree.

Enter into a Job.

Love/Get married.

Work.

Eat.

Sleep.
This is the way?

Or 

There is something more, something which needs to be filled in between?

Or

There is something which needs to omitted to create more space in between?

Or 

There is no such sequence?

Or

There is a new way ?

– Whatever it is you create or choose, go and live it.

 Life has its own taste and texture when we set our own horizon, however, the problem comes when we continuously try to compare and scale our horizon with the skyline of others!

Comparison kills the very flavour of life. Inspiration fuels new energy into it.

Death takes me closer to life

From more than a year, I’m doing a small exercise of experiencing death everyday.¬†

Early morning, before leaving my bed I feel each part of my body dying.

I begin with my feet and as I reach the brain, the whole body gets frozen. I can also feel the separation of soul (life energy) from the body. After witnessing my death body for couple of minutes,  I imagine the entrance of life energy within me. Then, I slowly instruct each part of my body to come alive. I begin with the brain and as I reach towards feet, the whole body feels fluid, dynamic, refresh and grateful.   

This small exercise has taken me closer to life. This small activity has raised the level of compassion and sensitiveness (within me)  towards every living entity. 

Now, I don’t get quickly irritated by the mosquito bite. I walk consciously, to protect ants’kingdom. If I can’t help others, I silently pray for them. If I can’t be with those who need me, I send them strong loving and healing vibrations. If my parents say something which I don’t agree, instead of showing strong disagreement, I try to understand their love and concern towards me.¬†

Witnessing death everyday has inspired me towards body fitness and towards to travel ing light while alive (lighter than the speed of light :P). 

Remembering death has also helped me to drop off unnecessary baggage of issues and shifted me towards love and laughter.

And this is what matters!

Habit of Journaling, noticing small joys and expressing love : Another 100 days focus

I’m beginning with a combination of new habits, which may sound different, however, they are closely interconnected. 

For the next 100 days I’ll focus on the habit of writing every thing,  (small, big, trivial, significant etc.) noting down things which pops over my mental screen and tickles my heart. 

And for this, the tools I’ll use is : 

1.Journal/notebook : Take it wherever I go.

2.Small cards : Note down small moments of joy and drop it in a handmade box. 

3.Expression :Express love and gratitude towards life and people through gratitude notes and love letters. Tell people how much they matter to me. 

 

Individual, Story and Remembrance 

Every individual has a story. 

Each story has some message,  some lesson, some humor, some mistake, some love, some affection, some bitterness, some connection, some surprise and some dissociation as well. 

What we remember and how we remember the stories on a daily basis frames the quality of our lives!

Day 92 of 100 days workout challenge 

I forgot to count! And I also stopped counting days when I didn’t exercised as they were very few. (Aisa lag raha hoga ki main apni taareef kar rahi hu, uske liye Kshama Karein  ūüėõ ;)) 

I’m glad to learn and work daily on cultivating habits which work in favor of my mind body and soul!