Why we do anything – Self Enquiry

Today, a friend of mine inspite of being busy in the evening agreed to keep the luggage of colleague in the bus [so that she can pick it up on the other end].

I asked her, when you have so much work and also scheduled time with the gym trainer, why you took the responsibility? And now, you are getting tensed as to how you’ll take out time to drop the luggage at the bus stand!

She replied, ‘In future I may need her help. [Kal mujhe zarurat padegi to vo help karegi naa]’

Her reply made me self-enquire about my favorite question –  ‘Why I (we) do anything!’

Anything means – help, love, care, study, friendship, cook, shop, Job, clean, Facebook, blog, comment, follow, lead, share, marry etc.

Any choice we make is compound result of two phenomenas –

1. Quality of thoughts i.e taking decision out of love or fear.
2. Quality of intentions i.e taking decision out of grace or greed.

Then there are permutations of these two.

‘Love+ Grace, Love+Greed, Fear+Grace, Fear+ Greeed and trio combinations of each sets.’

My friend, in this case, was functioning with ‘Love+Greed’ or there can be a possibility of ‘Fear+Greed’ or some love, some fear and some greed.

My personal belief is :

Love (when heart functions and mind doesn’t malfunctions) + Grace (trust in life, in the existence which supports)
= leads to choices which are harmonious for ourselves and for the people associated with it.

And every mistake (thay happens), stress, regret and grudge we hold inside is an open invitation to shift towards the path of harmony.

So, next time you take a move,  pause and reflect on which combination is driving you!


A huge thing

Yesterday, I wasn’t well. I had a cold and severe headache. 

Today, while I was coming downstairs for the breakfast Lalita Aunty [Lady guard of our hostel] stopped me and said, ‘Main abhi aapke baare mein hee soch rahi thi ki, Amrita dikhi nahi..pata nahi tabiyat theek hui ki nahi. Ab kaisi hai tabiyat?’  [Rough english translation : I was thinking about you, how’s your health now?]. I sarcastically said, ‘Aap to mujhe 100 saal tak zinda rakho. 😉‘ Then I thanked her for thinking about me and assured her that I’ve recovered from cough and headache. 

On the surface, it’s a very little thing, however, if we take a pause and notice it carefully we’ll realize it’s a huge thing!

Giving someone a place in your mind, investing the time and energy in thinking about the well being of a person – IT’S REALLY A BIG THING. And I feel so humbled and fortunate to be a part of someone’s mind [thoughts]. Just took ‘Gratitude pinch! It also makes me aware of the responsibility which comes when we feel sheltered under somebody’s caring umbrella. 

दिल तो यूं ही धड़कता है
दिमाग धड़के किसी का तुम्हारे लिए ~ कद्र करो उनकी।

Lalita Aunty & Saroj Aunty